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“Elite” Bihari living in metropolitan city starts using the word “Bihari” as derogatory word


A Bihari software engineer living in New Delhi has started using the word “Bihari” as a derogatory word like other Delhiites do. He uses the word for people who behave in a gawaar (illiterate) way, or simply those who make him angry. When we met him, he called us “Biharis” because he spotted our reporter picking his nose. Apparently, 30-year-old Rajiv Ranjan is pissed off with people who mock him for being a Bihari. Now, he has found the way out: He poses as a Delhiite, even if it means having a hatred for people who come from his own state.

Rajiv, who works in a reputed software firm, was born and raised in Patna, Bihar. He moved to New Delhi in his early 20s, leaving all of his friends preparing hard for IAS. He says that he has suffered a lot of discrimination in Delhi because of his accent, which is eerily similar to that of Lalu Yadav in his younger days. “The best way to deal with a trauma is to levy it on others. It’s the common human psyche,” he says. And hence started his hatred for his own people.

Once an extraordinarily smart kid with a beautiful mind, Rajiv (or Raj, as he calls himself now) found it emotionally taxing to fight off stereotypes of being a Bihari since he moved to Delhi. He stopped eating with his hands, and had to resort to using spoons and forks, even for eating roti-sabzi. He stopped putting on mustard oil and middle-parting his hair, and switched to spiky hairdoes with the “sexiest” of gels. He is now suffering from dandruff and hair-loss.

Rajiv also had to switch from a mild-mannered polite man to rude and haughty, just to convince people that he does not belong from the land of Pataliputra. “Biharis are the most unhygienic people around,” he shouted at us when we visited him. “They don’t have any manners; they are illiterate. The other day in the metro, I saw a Bihari staring at my touchscreen phone and asking his friend what is there in my hand! And, when he saw a big shopping mall on the way, he was so amazed that he tried to open the metro gate to get out! Biharis are dumb. And I am not one.” His words were punctuated with uncivilized Hindi gaalis that he has learnt from learned Delhiites.

Some of Rajiv’s friends tell us that long ago, he used to talk to his parents and relatives for hours on the phone. Now, he doesn’t even pick their calls, referring to them as “an embarrassment”. Rajiv has also started visiting pubs and discos, and smokes two packets of cigarettes a day to prove to his peer group that he is no more a Bihari. Apparently, anyone who does not smoke or drink is labelled as a Bihari by him. The guy has also stopped bathing regularly to use more deo and smell good.

He even has a reputation of being a casanova and a flirt now, after he ditched the love of his life, who he knew since 7th grade, to prove to the world that he was not a “lame loser lover”. We caught hold of the ex-flame, Gayatri Kumari, who hails from the town of Muzaffarpur in Bihar. “He hated the Bihari tag. He asked me to dress skimpily… in short skirts and high heels to look like a Delhiite. When I refused to give up my traditional clothing as I belong to a respectable family, he got mad and dumped me.” He apparently called her a “Biharan” to mark the break-up.

Rajiv’s firm stand on the matter leads to a great division among the people from Bihar residing in big cities—those who think the Bihari tag is a curse as it leads to disrespect and discrimination, and those proud of being called Biharis, who are proving to the world their worth by their hard work and talents. Which side are you on? Is it fair to stereotype and hate a community? And, before Bihari readers erupt, we wish to tell that the writers of this post are also Biharis. 🙂


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Kumar Pratik

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47 Comments

  • now i want to tell u all what biharis are capable of…..i currently study in NIT Trichy ranked 6th in INDIA as per MHRD LIST……and not the ranking provided by some filthy magazines….the highest package here of Rs.1 cr given by FB was given to BIHARI …..for ur information …..his name is faisal….u can track it…..every day atleast 3 BIHARIS are getting placed…..no which is far more than any other state…here…u talk of communication skills…whether it is ZS,FUTURE FIRST,WIPRO STAR,MCKENZIE,or any other management firms…biharis got placed in it…the thing is that we are not show offs…..u talk of looks….common u have not seen me…. u so called metro politan dudes……u will foget seeing urself in mirror…..

    • Atul, you being an NIT Trichy student, it pains me to read your response. If you had spent some time to actually read the article, it would have become clear to you, that we are not mocking Biharis in any possible way. (I too am a Bihari, and a proud one at that.) On the other hand, it is to bring to light the plight of Biharis who suffer at the hands of discrimination and stereotyping.

      • :O……Nice one! It’s really sad to see people keeping such views and thinking. I think whatever step he took was absolutely wrong! I think these activities are just the outcome of his defense mechanism! He is suffering from some sorta identity crisis :D…….He should have accepted the challenge, should have worked on his weak points and he should have changed himself in a positive manner and then he should have proudly said that I AM A BIHARI….C’mon! Not all Biharis are rustic or bad looking or they can’t wear short clothes…And it’s also not true that every Bihari has bad accent. I have hosted many programmes in my college and I have quite a good accent, but being a Bihari has never been an embarrassement for me. I am proud of being one. Not just that, even loads of Punjabi & Bong guys have approached me even after knowing that I am a Bihari. I think this is high time when people should change their perception about Biharis. I think we are the best!

        • Now this is what i call a real answer.

          I am also from Bihar (SIwan) and presently I am working in one of the world’s largest news channel (Reuters) and I am proud of my state and my people.

      • Hi All the Biharis should be proud of Paki and Chinese advance nukes and stealth ballistic missiles because that would be used (dropped) against enemies of Bihar.’
        Message from Patna.

    • Your comment is really unfortunate. It seems you have not read the article from head to toe before writing like this, or you couldn’t identify the purpose behind the article. We choose to skip explaining, since satire explained is satire lost.

    • Hi All the Biharis should be proud of Paki and Chinese advance nukes and stealth ballistic missiles because that would be used (dropped) against enemies of Bihar.’
      Message from Patna.

  • It’s really sad how people lose their identity as soon as they leave their town.. I,too, am a Bihari and a proud one.. Others should like you for what you are. If you are pretending to be somebody else then its just fake and it won’t go too far.. I even speak Bhojpuri sometimes in front of my friends who belong to other states when they insist me. And one of my Gujju friend is even learning bhojpuri from me nowadays..
    If you want people to respect you, Be What You Are! Acquire as much knowledge as you can, utilise the benefits of the studies you’re being taught. And people will automatically understand that they had this wrong notion about bihari capabilities.. Don’t hate anybody just because they belong to a particular region…We all are Indians and that is what matters most.

  • I feel pity for that guy in consideration – Mr. Rajiv …
    i am also 4m bihar and feel that we have already so many reasons to divide ourself – caste , religion , region , etc and the WAR is still on but separating away from our own people is the last thing a person would do prove his ill mental capability ….
    As long as some1 uses the word ‘bihari’ just for identification – its fine but those who offend you by callling ‘Bihari’ in a wrong way , Make it a habbit of asking politely by simply saying#
    ‘Sir may i know the reason , just because i belong to a under-previledged state, i dont have the right to talk,laugh,eat the way i have born and brought up?’
    Possibly this would reduce your anger and give others a chance to revisit their thought …..

  • Hey pratik..i like the way you put the sensitive issue on web..
    i just wanna say..I am proud to be a Bihari..for many resoans ..I am a medical scientist at PGI chandigarh..wanna read you further too..

    • Thanks a lot C.Prakash. The credit for this article goes to the other two authors as well, who actually came up with the concept. But, thanks again. Please do read, it will be my pleasure.

  • I really am sorry for this Rajiv guy, who lost his identity just in the influence of few guys who just don’t even know themselves. Primarily, those who discriminate people by their community clearly show the level of dust in their head, as they judge people by their destiny, opposed to judge destiny by people(which is logical choice).
    Secondly, Biharis are really respected at the places, where people understand talent. I am studying in IIT Delhi, and here I have seen how they treat with Biharis. They say,”Oh! you from bihar, you must really be genius dude… biharis are really genius”.Prateek and authors, I really wanna thank you to bring this point here, because this is the time for “so called modern people” to know that Bihar is no more the same city. It has set a foot in every brightest area in the world, with its brightest people, and everybody(except some illiterate people and guys like Rajiv) repect Biharis for their talents.I really wanted to present the illustration of my facts stated but it would take a complete blog, to show even a glimpse of it.

    I again thank authors for bringing this topic out so that our other Bihari brothers may read it and NOT fall in the category of Rajiv.

    And finally , all I want to say is that I am proud of being Bihari, and will always be.

    • Dear Anunay
      Your comment is really heartening. We’re glad we could get our idea across, and that you could connect with it perfectly. Thanks for your comment and reading the article. Let’s hope all Biharis can be proud of their origin.

    • It’s Pratik actually. Indeed, your comment makes us proud that the write-up served its purpose. Let’s hope Bihari can once again serve as a title, like with Atal Bihari Vajpayee.

    • I totally agree with you! Not only in studies, we are doing well in almost every field and also we are too smart! And we are nowhere behind in looks as well! Talking about accent, not everyone has that nasal voice except for few. Even if you look back in the history, there are a number of great personalities who have done wonders and they hail from Bihar. I hate the people who stereotype Bihari Guys as “Bhaiyajis” and Bihari girls as “Behenjis”…..When I came to college, people found it very hard to digest the fact that I am Bihari and they told me that I don’t look and sound like one, but I told everyone proudly that yes, I am a true Bihari who loves Litti Chokha more than any 5 star cuisine. I also cooked many Bihari food and made them taste it and now they are fan of Bihari food. And since then the perception about Biharis has changed among my friends and teachers. I think we should behave in such a manner and respect our State so that even others do the same. When you yourself won’t respect then how could you expect anyone else show respect towards you or your state. I really wish to sue this Rajiv for humiliating us….Dumbass! He is very soon going to regret for his actions and that day, no1 will be beside him

      • Err….this Rajiv does not exist. We made him up. That’s what we do. We are News ‘That Matters Not’.
        All the other points you mentioned are exactly what we wanted to convey through this post.

        • Hi All the Biharis should be proud of Paki and Chinese advance nukes and stealth ballistic missiles because that would be used (dropped) against enemies of Bihar.’
          Message from Patna.

  • Good job Tanay, Pratik and Aashish. This is a very common issue these days, Biharis in metropolitan cities being exposed to such criticism and discrimination resulting to various personality disorders. The situation with Biharis in such cities is similar to the situation of Indians in the whole world. The point is we never try to work out this messed up condition of ours. Again we blame others and stick to our notion for being accepted as what we are. That is when the term “Dehati” or “Ganwaar” comes into play. Some people who take it seriously work their condition but in the process they fail to realize their final status leading to. We can’t blame them as it is a very crucial process. So only thing I would say is, we should never forget what we are and what we r capable of, first thing. Second thing, we should always try to adopt good things from surrounding and avoid d bad ones. Third and prior thing is, never underestimate (anything).
    So as u hav brought this issue in lime light in such a lucid way, I would request u to work out a reform or counseling process through ur satire. ALL D BEST!!

    • We’ve faced this situation in the past, where we know what the problem is, what the solution should be, but simply do not either have the mass appeal or the resources to initiate a full-scale revolution on the issue. The thing is – We all know what the problems are, but none of us is willing to change himself/herself. And, even if they are, it’s a very small negligible percentage.

      Yet, we are trying to think of some ways to implement these solutions. Give us a little time, and we will surely think of some creative ideas on the same.

      Thanks for your input. We need responsible readers like you. Keep coming back 🙂

  • Nice Post 🙂 ……I don’t think there are many BIHARIS like Rajiv ( Poor Fellow :P). We all are proud of being BIHARIS and I think writers of this post will agree with me on this point.Simply speaking this post is very nice and well put up 🙂

    • Indeed Vishwas. I don’t think there is even one Bihari like Rajiv in the country. But, we had to conceive this scenario to make the write-up funny, or people wouldn’t even read. (You know how difficult it is to get readers these days :P)

      Thanks, we try to do our bit.

  • Rajiv a.k.a. Raj should watch Gangs of Wasseypur.
    Then he should consider how cool Biharis really are.
    Same goes for any other Bihari facing problems with his/her identity.

  • Idiot…..Go to hell! Wtf do ya think of yourself? That Delhites are better than Biharis. It’s just ‘cuz of ppl like you, we suffer everywhere. ASSHOLE. Biharis are the most smart talented people.

    • Yes we are the smartest. Delhites? Well, I can write an entire article on them.

      PS: Again, we are a satire site. We make things up to mock certain unfavorable situations.

  • I want to say just one thing.

    Respect ur home ur culture then automatically respect will reflect back to you.

    As expecting others to respect ur culture when u urself is disgracing it, will be like waiting for a ship in an airport.

    I am a proud bihari from a culturally rich city patna but I m an Indian first! That what matters to me the most.

    Thanks for this wonderful article Authors!

  • Their is huge Discrimination against Bihari where ever I went in the last 10 year. Tamil Nadu , Delhi , Maharashtra.
    Some time it make me sick , because of some cheap people we are paying the price.
    Where ever I go the fear of being discriminated followed me.
    I want to clear from this website, that all fingers are not equal and all Bihari are not same.

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    • Hi All the Biharis should be proud of Paki and Chinese advance nukes and stealth ballistic missiles because that would be used (dropped) against enemies of Bihar.’
      Message from Patna.

  • Forget the past. The real truth is that rest of the India will never understand what it is doing to a young talented mind from Bihar.
    Talent creates amazing things, but when angry it detroys it all.
    The only way out is a all out war against them. If they bomb a cinema hall just because it hosted a Bhojpuri movie, how do you expect us to remain silent? If they attack you, kill you, insult you at every deed for no fault of yours, how can you let your pride being hurt and do nothing? Such sweet talk of Moderates wont help, we need revolutionists who can do real action. Jai Bihar!

  • I don’t know if revolution is what is required but do read this article
    http://www.liberalsindia.com/freedomfirst/ff457-03.html

    “A Bihari would be feign to accept the facts of his exploitation because no one is born a Bihari, he becomes a Bihari. A Bihari exists only because of a subtle and insidious sense of discrimination.”
    So true!
    I was born just a human, at 5 I was made an Indian, at 15 I was made a Bihari, and now I am a revolutionary! lol for the society and how it screws up with enlightened souls and pulls them back into lower planes of existence.
    — Buddha reborn, and he is not laughing…

  • Message from Bihar:-
    Only China can teach a lesson to arrogant Indians. FACEBOOK POST: –
    Why hypocrite Indians made so much noise about an Indian spy Sarabjit Singh, Who killed in a Paki jail. These hypocrite Indians don’t respect 10 crore (100 million) Bihari people because Biharis are poor.
    Hypocrite Indians should know that millions of Indian people are rotting in Indian jails without trial for years. Is this human right?
    FACEBOOK POST: –
    If you saw Tames river in London and Main River in Frankfurt, Germany then come and see Yamuna River in New Delhi, India and think how beautiful are European minds, European climate and European food? I love Europe.
    With regards,
    Ranjeet from Fatuha, East of Patna.

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    • Why Indian hate Bihar and Biharis?

      Indian hates Bihar and Biharis because Bihar and Biharis are poor and victim of Indian democracy and constitution Only China can teach lessons to arrogant Indians without war, read economic war.
      China will fill the whole world with cheap Chinese products, cars, mobiles, computers, machine hardware, software, textiles, handicrafts, herbal medicines, and cheap tourism that Indian can’t compete.
      Long live China, message from Bihar.

    • ABey bhen ki l***i yeh post jinhone likha hai voh mere bhai hai so first respect that and whateva u wanna rite,post it in a better language and tone.Now,jahan tak bihariyon ki baat hai mai thoda sa conservative Bihari hun and was brought up in NCR so watch it or maybe i could come to your house the next day u read this and make u realise about the terrible mistake u did.I believe in equality,but if even for second i could stop believing in that u have no idea what can happen to you,no jat or gujjar or any pujabi khoteya would even dare to save you.in the meantime THIS ONE WORD COULD SHUT YOUR CR***TCH OFF …..BONG …..hahahahhahahahahahahahaha get a life 😀

      Sorry Bhai @pratik jab tak pyaar se tha tab tak pyaar se jab kuttepanti karni hai toh mai kyun rukkun :Dbtw nice post mai kya search kar rha tha aur kya mil gaya GOOGLE ROCKS

  • Jai Bihar Jai Bihari,

    Tum saarey log bihar ke pichhe kyon par gayey ho ? Bihar ek swachh,pawitra aur sapooton ka rastra hai.. Koi bhi aadmi itna mahan nahi ho sakta jo bihar ki dharti mata aur uskey santaano ke baare me kuch bol sake…Ham sab ek insaan hain… aur hamlogon ko sirf itna sochna chahiey ki ham ek doosrey ke kaam aaen.. Agar mata ki do santaan hain aur ek garib hai to uska apmaan nahi karna chahiey balki uski madad karni chahiey… Agar ham garib hain,hamari boli stylish nahi hai to kya hua… ham saalintaa se bol saktey hain… Garib hain to kya hua,jamir bech kar amir to nahi, Aj bihari tone se sabko allergy hai.

  • Hi All the Biharis should be proud of Paki and Chinese advance nukes and stealth ballistic missiles because that would be used (dropped) against enemies of Bihar.’
    Message from Patna.

  • I am a bihari but born and brought up in delhi, but since childhoodI didn’t connect myself with delhi. My father used to take me village every year and I used to notice how even a normal person have sense in talking, they talk logical stuff but here in delhi students talk all about , fights, girls, mobile, games and porns. Here student want first too show off what he’s got before learning but in bihar they learn upto high level and even than they dont show off…I would like to settle in bihar later after my studies..I even keep choti back of my head which in child I didn’t. I was fittest among all obessed delhites and high egoistic jaats of here for any sports. I am descent in studies as compared to bihari intelligence but far more intellectual than delhites….I am proud to be bihari and that rajiv sucks….

  • I am not from Bihar. if a person speaks Bhojpuri, their accent will reflect that. What is wrong with that. Two points: (1) North India is relatively free from ethnic hatred like the South, North-east, and south-west. (2) in the BIMARU states, there is no violence or discrimination against South Indians or Marathis. people can go back in history and find reason to despise both. they did awful attacks on the North and destroyed Buddhism and Jaini. they forced the sari as a dress and destroyed cultures. What if Rajasthan says we don’t want a Marathi cm vasundara shinde.?

    People from up and Bihar are polite.

  • Hi guys i am also bihari i am studying in bca in banglore i faced descrimination while i was in assam but not in banglore i know bihari idiots but we are educated we can change the views of other indians towards bihari…i wlll do my best to teach lessson To bihari
    ….no matter how corrupt and illiterate biharis are i will still be bihari

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